In 2022 I spent $14,354.88 on therapy, here's what I learned 🍂

In 2022 I spent $14,354.88 on therapy.

In 2019, 2020 & 2021 I was also in therapy, fortnightly.

Here’s what I learned, from 4 years of therapy

1. Therapists are limited in how they can help you.

2. Good coaches are not limited as they can make their own rules rooted in ethics and research. They can share personal stories, they can say things therapists cannot. For therapists, the law stipulates what they can and can’t do. For coaches, they can do whatever they want, which has huge pro’s and massive con’s, dependent on the coach and their level of integrity and self awareness.

3. Since uncovering the abuse I endured in my childhood, it makes perfect sense why I’ve always longed for connection above all else. I also spent over $40,000 in 2022/23 to be part of entrepreneurial groups, events and masterminds driven by my need for connection.

4. Therapy helped me uncover disgusting memories of childhood sexual abuse and indescribable pain through EMDR.

5. Therapy also left me reeling, feeling unsupported, helpless and overwhelmed with what to do with all this uncovered information after our sessions.

5. When I stopped listening to the advice of others, moved back to nature, got rooted in the principals and frameworks of Purposefully Clear (my signature course) I was able to see the light again. Meditation, sleep hygiene, meaningful connections, honesty, sunlight, nature walks with no devices, daily journaling, a nourishing diet, rest, 8+ hours of sleep & meaningful work. All of this contributed to me feeling regulated, I knew myself all along, what I didn’t know was why I needed all of these things to function. It’s because what I endured, many have not. I was traumatised. In order to feel safe in my body, I must regulate myself otherwise I fall into depressive states of helplessness.

I also learned:

1. Connection has always been my own relationship to myself and how much I trust myself and what I feel in any given moment (when you’ve been abused and gaslit, you tend to doubt or question your feelings and it can take a really long time to decide and/or make a decision). This is what I help clients with.

2. Feeling confident and empowered is in the deciding, not the in-between, purgatory place of indecision. That’s why Messy Action was born.

3. There are really good marketers and there are really good humans, don’t get the two confused. If you do, it’s ok, just trust your intuition going forward, even if it takes you a while. 

4. Only you know what you need.

5. We can’t do this alone. We won’t do this alone.

Here’s to…

If you want to dive into the episode where I share about EMDR, depression & feeling creatively blocked, download the episode below 👇🏼