When I choose me, the universe conspires to support me 😎

In 2019 I had a client that paid $5k to work with me for 6 months.

When I signed her, I was over the moon, she’d found me through a mutual connection and she seemed at ease with the price and the transformation we were going to commit to.

The problem was, 6 months is a long time when you’re a new coach, it’s even longer when said client was not actually committed…

She would turn up to our calls in her dressing gown and would moan about her work, her relationship and all the stuff that sucked in her life and guess what…

She would tell me she wasn’t willing to

🥵 Quit her job

🥵 Change her job

🥵 Talk to her partner

or

😵‍💫 do the rituals I recommended

She would meditate sometimes, journal sometimes and had big dreams with little follow through.

It drove me crazy, I couldn’t understand why I “attracted” this person. I really didn’t like jumping on calls as it was easy to predict how they’d go down…

👏 Me being overly encouraging, motivating and hopeful

🗣 Said client resisting and wanting to chat about everything but her transformation

I was 110% committed to my transformation, I didn’t possess any of the characteristics she was exhibiting…

Wtf was going on?

At that point of my journey I looked at “life as a mirror” rather than “sometimes it’s not a mirror and you have full permission to let go of things that don’t work…”

I was knee deep in the drama triangle, I enabled her victim mentality while I unknowingly played the role of the rescuer.

I had an unhealed hopeful saviour complex from childhood and this woman mirrored much of the dynamic with my mother growing up. Lindsay Gibson calls this a “childhood healing fantasy” in the book she wrote “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents”.

It all began to click.

I was in a yoga class one afternoon with a little over $1,500 in my bank account for rent that was due in a few days.

I calculated that if I were to refund her the remainder of our time together, I’d need to refund her ALL my rent money. Fuck.

As I lay there, frustrated, in savasana, I said to the universe, please look out for me, I’m refunding her and drawing a line in the sand as soon as this class is over.

I did.

It freaked me out.

She wasn’t stoked.

Lesson: when I choose me, the universe conspires to support me. Even when the odds feel stacked against me.

Spoiler alert: I signed another client within a couple of days that was far more aligned and was able to pay my rent in full.

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