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I Let My Clients Treat Me Like Sh**

I Let My Clients Treat Me Like Sh**

I’ve had my fair share of difficult clients over the last 7 plus years. Wanna know why they were difficult?

Brooke Nolly
August 22, 2025

I’ve had my fair share of difficult clients over the last 7 plus years.

Wanna know why they were difficult?

Because I let them.

I grew up only knowing difficult.

It was so familiar to me.

I had a suffocating mother.

An abusive father.

A Switzerland brother.

I grew up within a cocktail of narcissistic abuse and co-dependence.

This resulted in incredibly low self esteem, low self worth and a high tolerance for being treated like sh*t.

It’s been a long road of unraveling, re-parenting and re-patterning.

It’s been a long road of learning that I am worthy of nurturing, care and support and that my needs are here to be honoured, not ignored.

I spent my childhood tolerating addiction, volatility, blame casting and doing and being what was required of me.

My whole childhood was about meeting others needs.

As psychologists would say, I became the ‘needless’ child.

(P.S. a great book is Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay Gibson)

I’m sharing this because I no longer have difficult clients.

I have standards and boundaries around what I will and won’t tolerate.

My tolerance for codependent victims that blame their life decisions on others is zero.

I now attract self responsible women in the drivers seat of their lives that desire support and partnership in making their dreams come true.

In the past, I’d allow myself to be…

Unnecessarily challenged by clients

Questioned by clients

Blamed by clients

and ultimately, disrespected by clients.

Because, I didn’t know any different.

Because, I was a people pleaser.

As a people pleaser I was fearful of the ‘perceived’ consequences of not giving my clients what they wanted.

Just like how I was with my mother and father.

I was used to highly volatile people and I knew how to ‘manage’ them and to ‘tread carefully’.

Being respected only happens when you have standards and respect yourself enough to walk away from scenarios that f*ck with your integrity and sense of self.

This is your permission slip (not that you need one) to fire the highly volatile, blamey, avoidant victim client and reclaim your self respect, dignity and integrity.

There’s a higher paying client who is far more fun on the other side of that decision.

I did a live on it, you can watch it ⬇️